Welcome to Personal Effects for June……this month I share some key learning from a training weekend with Robert Dilts and Pam (a new NLP Business Practitioner) shares how she has used her new skills to navigate the sometimes choppy waters of change at work……………..

Learning from Dancing with Robert Dilts and Demons !

With Robert Dilts and Deborah Bacon Dilts

I hadn’t really considered what I could learn from my ‘demons’ ………and far less the value of ‘dancing’ with them ! That was until I met Robert and Deborah Dilts on ‘The Hero’s Journey’………….. now I am dancing with them all the time……..and learning…………..

I thought surely all I would want to do with ‘demons’ would be to run away from them or at least fight them off. Then a few weeks ago I attended the ‘Hero’s Journey’ course. The idea of the ‘Journey’ is from the work of Joseph Campbell whose book is ‘The Hero with a Thousand Faces’. The Hero’s Journey was the story of the man or woman who, through great suffering, reached an experience of the eternal source and returned with gifts powerful enough to set their society free.

This has become a metaphor for how when we choose to take risks and work with our demons, we transform ourselves and others around us. On the way though there are those demons. When we face any demon/dragon/problem there are stages we go through (similar to the change curve)… and at each stage we can welcome in the ‘learning’ with these phrases:

  1. ‘That’s interesting’
  2. ‘I’m sure it makes sense’
  3. ‘Something needs to be heard/held/healed
  4. ‘Welcome…..’

Consider how thinking /saying these the next time you meet a demon might teach you something too…………….
And then there is the dancing …………..more of that later for now just keep moving …………….